This whole parent-daughter relationship somehow used to seem to come a whole lot easier when i wasn't in my mid-twenties. Maybe that is because I have somehow blocked out those awkward middle school years.
As I get older I have started to need something different from my parents than I think I really needed before. Of course there are times when I look to them for advice and counsel, but a majority of the time I would prefer to see them as those people that helped me immensely as i was growing up and are still there for me if I should need them. Still there for me "if" I should need them is the tough part. Who doesn't want to be needed? The thing is, is that I am 24 and feel pretty ready to make my own life choices whether I like it or not. The funny part is that even some of those choices that seem minor to me at the time seem HUGE to my parents eyes. Perhaps they see some of my choices as life-altering and fear that I am gradually fucking up everything in my future while I am contentedly floating along trying to live in the moment and feeling pretty good about it.
I guess I'm not really sure who is right in this picture. I like to think that I am because it is my life and I am free to succeed or fuck it up as I choose (even though I don't believe I'm really doing that bad of a job). The mistakes, the craziness, the joy, the struggles, it is all what we learn from. God forbid the person that doesn't ever take a chance on anything. What a boring life that would be. That would truly be someone who makes what I would define as poor decisions.
We only live once. I've come to the decision that I want to enjoy everyone and everything in my life for who or what they are. I don't want to pass judgment on anyone. There are some amazing sorority girls out there, some lawyers who work for good, some successful people that are unhappy. There is no formula for what is good and what is bad, for what works and what doesn't. I'm going to play this game called life and take some chances along the way. If I fuck up I can probably still come out okay on the other side. And if I fuck up at least I can say I was the one who made that decision cause it's my life and I'm okay with that.
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