I never write this blog with the idea that anyone actually is listening but my computer. But I suppose that's how cyberspace works. You put it out there and it's there. This blog is that silent listener for me. It's my horrendously underpaid psychiatrist.

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Is "Courting" Dead?

I saw a new short play at the Fertile Ground Festival in Portland today that referenced online dating and the man in the play said he wanted to court the girl. I had to stop and think to myself when the last time I had really been courted was.

Seems like these things happen, right? Guys take ladies out to dinner, go on walks with them, make them something, give them a flower, stop to surprise them with coffee... you know... court.

Lately I have been feeling, however, that all the guys I know seem pretty hands off. I am told from time to time by friends (both male and female) that I am "a catch" and that "anyone would be lucky to date me" or "not to settle". So, what gives? Am I not putting out the vibes? Or are guys done courting? Maybe I just need to find my own guy to court. Seems like most guys interpret this as "needy" or "stalker-ish".

I've also noticed that when I really am into someone lately that I have a bit of a tendency to get nervous and run away. Awesome. That seems super helpful. Yeesh. Dating.


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